Hearing from your Ex after a breakup no matter how it ended can be very confusing and it will leave you wondering why or what it means. Let's talk a bit about it.
When Ex's come back, it is usually for a reason and most times not to actually commit to you but the may really miss you. Though missing you does not necessarily mean they want to get back together.
Why do Ex's come back?
Some may be genuine and some may be selfish;
They want to find out what you are up to, whether you've moved on, seeing someone or still crying over them.
They want to keep you around just for just, when they need comfort, you are there.
They most certainly want to get laid because they know it will be easy with you.
To boost their egos.
So here's how to deal with your ex's calling and texting you.
1. You don't have to be nice
Women tend to be nice but men are more firmer. The truth is you do not have a reason to be nice to them, if no contact is what you want, let them know direct that you do not want to hear from them or perhaps block them.
2. Maintain your boundaries
You have to be strong and strict because them reaching out regardless of how your relationship ended is not a goodwill gesture most times. Set your rules and follow them this will keep them from using you.
3. Be honest with yourself
Do what is in your best interest, don't let someone play with your heart again, this will only get you back on that roller coaster of hurt again.
4. Don't put your life on hold
When Ex's reach out, people tend to have some hope but if you have decided to move on with your life and are doing fine, don't stall your life because he has started contacting you again, continue doing you and the rest will fall in line.
5. Don't spoil a current relationship, if in one already
What ever your Ex's intention is, if you already started a relationship with someone else and it is steadily going well you do not sabotage it. You just don't know what your Ex is really up to.
Remember actions speak louder than words, if he says he misses you, his actions should reflect it, otherwise guard your heart and self, don't sell your self short and don't be someones backup plan.“When people decide to leave your life, let them. But you leave theirs too."